Caring for someone with cancer

You may be reading this section because you are caring for someone with cancer. What this means for you will vary. Being a carer can bring a sense of satisfaction, but it can also be challenging and stressful. LGBTIQA+ carers may have added challenges.

Specific issues LGBTIQA+ carers may face

Discrimination

You may feel uncomfortable accessing services and support groups for fear they will discriminate against you or the person you’re caring for because of your sexual orientation, gender or sex characteristics. This may be based on previous experiences with health professionals.

You may also worry that your relationship with the person you care for won’t be recognised and you won’t be included in decision-making. Some people cope with this fear by hiding the nature of their relationship when accessing support.

Ask others for help

You don’t have to do all the practical, emotional and financial tasks of caring alone. Your friends and chosen family may be keen to help, especially if the person’s family of origin has rejected them due to their sexual orientation, gender or intersex variation.

Use the Gather My Crew app to organise offers of help.

Rights at work

If you’re caring for someone in your family or household and working, you have the same rights as other employees. Talk to your employer about your caring responsibilities and how they can support you with carer’s leave and flexible working arrangements. For more information, see Cancer, work and you.

Financial help

Since federal reforms in 2008, everyone has the same rights and entitlements. This means you can access the Carer Allowance and Carer Payment if you meet the criteria. For more details, visit Services Australia.

Isolation and loneliness

You might feel lonely if friends stay away or if LGBTIQA+ communities aren’t as supportive as you’d expected. You may also feel too tired to socialise or enjoy your usual activities. Consider joining a support group or call QLife on 1800 184 527 for support.

Resources for carers

Try to look after your own physical and emotional wellbeing. Give yourself some time out and share your concerns with a counsellor or your doctor. There is a wide range of support available to help.