Sex, intimacy and cancer

Questions to ask your doctor

Below is a list of questions that you could ask your health professional. It may help you start a conversation about your sexual health and concerns

Before or during treatment

  • Could this treatment affect my sex life, libido, hormones or fertility? What are the risks? 
  • Are changes likely to be temporary or permanent? How long will they last? 
  • What can be done to keep my sexual function and pleasure? Are there treatments that can help?
  • Is it safe to have sex or masturbate? Do I need to take any precautions? 
  • Is there anything I should avoid when having sex?
  • What type of contraception should I use, and for how long? Is it safe to get pregnant, or to get my partner pregnant?

Side effects and concerns after treatment

  • Sex doesn’t feel the same as it used to. What can I do? 
  • I want to have sex, but find it hard to feel aroused. What can help? 
  • I’ve lost interest in sex. Is there anything that could help? When will I feel like, or enjoy, sex or being intimate again? 
  • What problems may I have with intercourse or penetration?
  • It hurts when I have sex. Why is this, and how can I manage it?
  • Why can’t I get an erection? Will this be temporary? What are my options if I can’t get an erection?
  • Why don’t I ejaculate anymore? 
  • How can I manage the symptoms of menopause? Could menopausal hormone therapy help?
  • I have vaginal dryness. What can I do? Is oestrogen cream safe to use?
  • How can I stretch my vagina? Is it safe, and who can help me learn about vaginal dilators?
  • I’m having trouble feeling confident about my body and reaching orgasm. Will things improve?
  • I’m worried I can’t satisfy my partner anymore. What can I do?
  • Can you refer me to a sex therapist? Is there anyone else who might be able to help?